(Ellie and Tessa in the same 4th of July outfit. Ellie is one. Tessa is two and a half.)
Two and a half.
25 pounds soaking wet.
A little tiny package bursting with laughter and joy and sunshine.
Our park district has an amazing indoor play area where we like to bring the kids to get their energy out. It’s huge, with oodles of slides and soft-cushioned obstacles to climb through and around. They have an area that is just for little ones and it is there that we like to let Tessa roam free and explore. Mostly because it is caged and keeps her out of trouble. 🙂
There are, of course, other children in the play area and I am so often amused when I see her surrounded by infants. The sheer size of her peers is so markedly different. And inevitably, another mom will come over to make conversation, hoping to commiserate on the exhaustion of having an infant in the house.
I wait for the question. I know it’s coming because it always does.
“She’s so cute,” they say, “how old is she?”
“She’s two and a half.”
Inside, I cringe and wait for the response. They vary, but usually it involves an effort to restrain eyes bugging out of their head and an oddly confused smile. “Oooh,” they say, their eyes darting back and forth between my child and theirs, sizing up the differences. Mostly, the conversation kind of dies.
One time, a mom literally asked me if I was sure. She shared that her daughter is that same age and asked when her birthday is. She thought I had miscalculated my own child’s age.
That was awkward.
A small part of me just wants to lie when I get asked. Would it be any easier to just tell them she is 15 months or 18 or whatever number I feel like throwing out? Maybe I’ll really wow them and say that she is 10 months. That could be fun!
I think, as parents, we might all be happier if we could just stop asking each other how old our children are. It does nothing good – just feeds into this urge to compare. And what good are comparisons anyway? One is potty trained, one isn’t. One is reading, one isn’t. One is sitting or walking or talking or whatever. Some are not. They are not less. Different, perhaps, but not less.
But more than that, I’m sad for the conversations that die out. Our experiences are probably a little different in parenting, there’s no denying that. But we can still share. We are parents in the same community. Our children will grow up near each other. Commiseration gets us through some days!! And even if my little one is on the scenic route, she’s headed in the same direction as all the other little ones – up, up, up. I’m just a mom. She is just a kid. So let’s talk!
Yo soy La Lay 
Yes Yes a thousand times yes! Thank you for this post! Willow is almost 3 and not even 23 pounds. I, too, laugh at all the reactions we get when people realize her age. Good golly.
Our girls are small but mighty!!! I have been thinking of you all these days with your move and everything else going on in your world. Lots of prayers going up for your family from mine!
Thanks!