Yo soy La Lay

adventures in family, faith, and Down syndrome

Lesson #31: There is beauty in this change

on October 30, 2014

This is the last post of the 31 for 21 Blog Challenge!

This is my most important lesson.

Upon returning from my summer Study Abroad program in Ecuador during college, I did something completely uncharacteristic of me: I got a tattoo.

Evidence.  And, a new ab binder.

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If you were to line up my brother, sister, and I, I’m fairly confident that no one would peg me as “the tattooed one.”  I still wonder, on occasion, if the tattoo that my brother got was simply an effort to not be outdone by his nerdy sister. He would never admit it, of course, but still…

(On an unrelated side note, I think that my dad was more than shocked by this.  In the weeks following The Tattoo, he wrote the word “Hola” in permanent marker on his foot in silent(ish) protest and then showed it to me every time I saw him.)

In any case, the words permanently stenciled on my left foot are a quote from the Cuban revolutionary Che Guevara. Controversial, I know. In Spanish, it says, “Let the world change you, and you can change the world.”

Never has this been more relevant to me than it is now.

When I think back to my old high school yearbooks, I remember a lot of the signatures urging “stay sweet!” or “don’t change.”  Um.  Thank God I am not the person that I was when I was 17.  Seriously.  With time comes perspective and if I could re-sign all of those yearbooks now, from the eyes of my almost-thirty-year-old-self, my message would be quite different….

Change.

Change every day.

Don’t harden your heart when you experience struggles.  Grow.  Learn.  Experience.

Change.

Listen to the stories of others.  Open your heart to what they are telling you.  Seek to understand, to support, to love.   Be compassionate, caring, empathetic, kind.  Take what they have to show you and make a difference.

That is all we can do to leave this world a better place than how we found it.

When I think about little Miss Tessa and her place in this world, my prayer is that others will seek to understand when they interact with her.  She doesn’t have to perform any great miracles or bust through any stereotypes.  But maybe, just maybe, she will teach someone how to love.  Maybe someone will connect with her in a way that will open their heart to more patience or acceptance.  Maybe her smile will make a difference on a bitter day.  Maybe including her in a classroom of typical children will be a greater lesson for her peers than can be found in any textbook.  Maybe cheering on her successes will create advocates in unexpected places.

When we allow the experiences of others become a part of our hearts, we can change the world.

Will you let her change you?

J Sync 6 5 14

 

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2 responses to “Lesson #31: There is beauty in this change

  1. ajshara says:

    I love your blog. My son is just a few months younger than your daughter and he has two older sisters. I feel I can relate to a lot of things you say. Thank you! However, I was wondering about the band you have around Tessa’s belly. I assume it is to help her core while crawling, but was curious. What is it and where would one buy one?

    • Maggie says:

      Thank you! In regards to the ab binder… Her PT recommende it and brought it over for her, but I think you can get them at Walmart or Target in their “exercise” area? Its an adult-sized abdominal binder that she cut to fit Tessa’s size. If your son has PT, you should ask your therapist what they think. 🙂

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